We often struggle to achieve our goals and to create lasting change because what’s going on in our heads is at odds with them.
What we do on a daily basis is typically a reflection of how we consciously or subconsciously see ourselves.
Let me give you an example. I’ve set myself a goal of running a half marathon. Those of you that know me well will know that running has never really been “my thing”. And I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said “I’m just not a runner.” I still catch myself doing it now.
Why is that? Because it’s hard? Because “I’m no good at it” or I don’t think I can do it? Because I think I SHOULD be better at it? Because others are better at it than me? Because I don’t make time for it? Or for me more generally? Is it because I don’t see myself as important to have that time? And so on.
By focusing less on the outcome (e.g. my speed, distances covered, etc.) and more on the behaviours (being the kind of person who makes time for herself, who prioritises running and enjoys moving her body in nature) a strange thing has happened.
I’m running 3 times a week on my own, I’m enjoying junior Parkrun with my kids on a Sunday and my training plan is going really well.
Maybe I am a runner after all?
Does this resonate for you? What areas of your life and goals do you fall into this trap with?