No, I’m not starting a new reality TV show, just encouraging you to think about how we achieve change or build confidence in our ability to do things.
As women, we have a tendency to underplay our skills and abilities, our achievements and we are much more likely to suffer from “imposter syndrome” than men. And these traits can result in us talking ourselves out of opportunities and challenges – either on the grounds that we can’t do it OR because we put lots of barriers in the way as to why it’s just too difficult at the moment.
So my challenge for you today is to think about your health and fitness goals (or indeed any other goals in your life). And to then think about a person (real or imaginary) who has achieved them and epitomises what you’re striving for.
- What activities does that person do and, importantly, make time for?
- What habits do they have?
- What kind of mindset do they have?
- How do they see themselves?
- How do they speak to themselves?
- What kind of environment surrounds and supports them?
- And what systems do they use?
James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, proposes that we only stick to a habit when it becomes part of our identity. What we do indicates the type of person we (consciously or unconsciously) believe that we are. So if we have negative thoughts about ourselves and our ability, our identity is at odds with our goal and we’re less likely to stick to the habits and actions that will help us succeed.
For example, instead of focusing on running a marathon, focus on being a marathon runner. What would you do differently if that were your identity?
So go out there, push the buts to one side and fake it ’til you make it.